I have always said God gives up wake-up calls throughout our lives when He’s trying desperately to get our attention about something. The question is, how often do you answer the phone or do you just ignore the call?
A wake-up call is what I believed happened last night when my 19-year-old daughter, Janie, was involved in a motor vehicle accident with a drunk driver. She was on her way back from Food Lion (less than 1/2 mile away from the house) when this young woman slammed into the back of our vehicle.
According to this nice couple who witnessed the accident, they said Janie was driving the speed limit when out of nowhere this driver came up and slammed into the back of our vehicle. They theorize she was trying to cut in between the two vehicles but misjudged her distance.
After a long night in the hospital, we returned home. Janie is sore and has been diagnosed with a lower lumbar strain and a thoracic strain. I have some shattered nerves because I can’t help thinking how much more serious the accident could’ve based on the impact and damage of both vehicles but God is good and obviously has a purpose for Janie and this other young lady.
Both of the vehicles look to be total losses.
This young woman, who just turned 21, was so drunk she blew a 3.0 on the breathalyzer. In the state of NC .08 is legally drunk so I can’t believe she blew a 3.0. I don’t know how she could drive in that condition. Police administered the test three times because I don’t think they could believe it either!
I have to tell you I felt so bad for this young woman. She was crying and kept apologizing. It was such a sad scene to witness but, of course, I was concerned for Janie first and foremost so I didn’t express the compassion for this girl who just hit our car.
The police also told us when they tried to call the girl’s mother to let her know her daughter had just been in an accident, the mother sounded drunk also and just hung up the phone.
She was taken to jail and charged with DUI. We checked today and she is still behind bars with a $1500 secured bond. Janie, meanwhile, is resting.
Thank God my grandson, Jarod, wasn’t in the car–which he normally is–but he was at home in bed.
I have always been an advocate for MADD–Mothers against drunk drivers—but now that this is up close and personal, I have become an even STRONGER advocate.
My question here is why aren’t young people getting the message that alcohol and driving don’t mix?
And let’s hope and pray that this wake-up call is answered.
June 13, 2009 at 5:57 pm
WOW, Beverly! So sad to hear about your daughter’s accident, but what an EXCELLENT ARTICLE! To answer your question, I believe that most people don’t think that anything bad is going to happen to them. I also believe that many “drunk” people are “having too much fun” at the moment and don’t take the possible consequences seriously, until something serious happens. Thank you for addressing a VERY important topic…I hope that your article can make a difference in someone’s life.
June 13, 2009 at 6:27 pm
I am glad to hear that you daughter is doing okay. Hopefully, that young lady who hit your daughter will never drink drunk again. I am hoping that she learned her lesson.
June 13, 2009 at 6:28 pm
I believe there will be a time when you can show compassion to the young drunk woman when (and if) this accident makes a positive change in her life. We can pray this will be the mess she needs to make her message to others and not just the first of a long string of DUI’s–I shudder to think of that! It sounds like she does not have a good role model, but that should not be an excuse for this young lady. She should look to the mess drinking made to her mother’s life and not fall into the same trap.
I hope for a quick recovery for your daughter without too much pain. Back injuries are just awful when they lurk forever. Have her rest up, hopefully, she will recover completely before her next semester in college.
Blessings to your family.
June 13, 2009 at 7:05 pm
Bev thank you for notify us about your daughters accident may her lower lumbar strain and a thoracic strain be healed very soon. My prayers go out to her each new day of her life. God does play an important role in our lives. When I read it on facebook it hit home. Thankful she is home.
June 14, 2009 at 12:44 am
Driving drunk is so very preventable. Yet, so many have been disabled or killed because of this behavior. What makes folks do it? What pain are they trying to ease? Do they feel they have control.
I am glad you mentioned Mothers Against Drunk Driving.MADD, http://www.madd.org/
So much work must be done to get the message out there that can save lifes. Thank God your daughter was spared. I hope that the young lady’s life is changed by this also. That she gets the help that she needs emotionally, physically and spiritually.
June 14, 2009 at 1:06 am
Bev – I am so happy to hear your daughter is well along with the other driver. My prayers go out to both the families. It could have went another way but thanks be to God that he saw fit to protect them.
Life is so precious and things like this make us step back and just be thankful.I rejoice with you.
God Bless you and much love.
June 14, 2009 at 1:52 am
Very sorry to read this. I hope your daughter’s back injuries do not persist. Thank goodness she is in a hospital where her injuries can be monitored properly. So frequently with auto accidents, a back injury will become more apparent after several days. I have known people in ‘minor’ accidents who find out later that their injuries were not so minor.
Also, I just want to point out that the BAC of the girl who hit your daughter’s car was probably .30, not 3.0. At a .50, humans are usually unable to drive because one of the side effects of a .50 is commonly death! Check out the charts in the article at http://www.drinkinganddriving.org/Articles/blood-alcohol-content.html for the physical effects at various BAC levels. A .30 is VERY VERY drunk.
There is a DUI Avoidance Lesson Plan at the same site which teaches all the ways to avoid driving drunk. It may be something you would be interested in sharing with others.
MADD’s approach is to provide a deterrent in the form of tougher laws. Right now, the laws against drunk driving are pretty severe (thanks in no small part to MADD’s work over the last 25 years), so the fraction of drinkers who are swayed by legal deterrents are pretty much all deterred. That said, I am all for stiffer penalties and I am a big fan of ignition interlock devices. But more needs to be done. Deterrents work on some, but not all. Education is vital too.
June 14, 2009 at 2:05 am
Thanks for the post, Bev. I know that you’d be the first to quote Romans 8:28 – “And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose for them.” (NLT). I am grateful that Janie escaped sever injury and that Jarod was not in the car. I am thankful that YOU are the mother of the victim who has enough Christ in her to pray for the young women whose mother may not know how to pray. We serve an amazing God and He has His arms around you and Janie and Jarod and that young woman. Hope her mess becomes her message.
June 14, 2009 at 2:33 am
So glad things were not worse. A lesson to all. Alcoholics seem to reach rock bottom before they realize the need to clean up their act.
We had a high school swim coach show up drunk and starting throwing the girls into the pool. Lost his job, wife and kids. (They had enough, he wasn’t getting help). He was super talented and very caring, but the alcohol had taken control.
Then he was in an accident, driving drunk, hurt someone, ended up in jail several years. While in jail he turned to God for help, changed, and is now out and coaching for a college team.
June 14, 2009 at 4:19 am
Bev: Oh, I’m SO sorry to hear about the accident but thanking God that she, & the young lady who hit her, are okay physically. That is a blessing & I must agree w/you. God has plans. Keep being the wonderful mother & role model that you are, & that “wake up call” will shine through you to all who need to answer that ringing phone any time you’re around.
June 14, 2009 at 4:32 am
Praise the Lord that you and your daughter are alive and well!!
Sadly some don’t think before getting in a car!!
Love and Blessings to YOU Both!!
Leslie
June 14, 2009 at 5:33 am
Prayers are going out for you and your family, Bev. What a difficult time for you and your daughter.
I have a friend whose husband was killed by a drunk driver just a few months ago.
Things can change in a nanosecond.
I’m thankful things were not worse for your daughter.
I hope that the driver gets help, and finds her way back to living and driving responsibly.
Sending healing ju-ju to you and your daughter : )
June 14, 2009 at 9:42 am
Well there’s most definitely a lesson here..and I pray that the drunken-driver learns well!
As a victim myself,I live with a back-injury and terrible memories, but often wonder what thoughts go through that, of the ‘drunken man’ who inflicted this upon me?? Maybe he found it easier to erase? Maybe not?
I pray Janie recovers from her ordeal emotionally unscathed, whilst the driver might use her ‘quiet-cell-moments’, to sincerely appreciate the damage such stupidity causes! Doesn’t sound as though she will do so at home?!
Bev—advocating such a worthwhile cause, a wonderful act on your behalf,one more voice-
Perhaps we need to push for driving lessons, to include ‘role-plays’ focused on such shocking realities?!
Just my input-
June 14, 2009 at 12:38 pm
Beverly, I am so happy that your daughter is ok–and that the young woman is also ok. Perhaps this will be an opportunity for her to count her blessings (as I know you must be doing) and learn from this experience. Thank God that it was not more serious! Warmly, Barbara