January 2009

We all have choices in life: 

A choice in attitude 

A choice in direction 

A choice of victory or defeat 

A choice of bitterness or sweetness 

A choice of healing or sickness


The mental attitude which we hold toward our work, our aim and even our pain has everything to do with what we accomplish. 



“If you’re driving with passion, don’t allow yourself to get pulled over by someone looking for a free ride.”  Beverly Mahone











How many people do you know who have a “sob story” for everything that’s wrong in their lives?  The best way to change your tune is to keep your life filled with light.    


To keep out discord, keep your heart filled with harmony; to shut out error, keep the mind filled with truth, to shut out ugliness, contemplate beauty and loveliness; to get rid of all that is sour and unwholesome, contemplate all that is sweet and wholesome.   




Opposite thoughts can not occupy the mind at the same time so make your mess your message and start singing a new song.  

Be sure to stay tuned to this blog for my new book, Make Your Mess Your Message, along with a pre-order special.












Have you ever asked yourself the following questions?


Why can’t I make the changes I really want so desperately in my life?   What’s wrong with me?   What’s holding me back?


If you’re not getting the results you want or expect out of your business or life, it’s probably due to one of three things:


1)  Limiting Beliefs


2)  Sabotaging Behaviors (Habits)


3)  Inadequate Structure (Daily Action and Accountability)


If you have “mess” that continues to hold you back from walking in your destiny, you need to do an honest and detailed assessment of your life and work on turning your mess into your message. 

Often times we have limiting beliefs about what we can achieve. For example, you may have a set goal in mind but a little voice inside your head says, “It’s not for you, you don’t deserve that” or “You can’t do it.” These thoughts pollute the mind. One way to stop these damaging thoughts is to override the negativity with positive ones.  Keep reminding yourself that you can do it and be sure to surround yourself with other positive thinkers. You will be amazed at how your attitude will change about your old beliefs. 

When you apply these recommendations, your life will be enriched. You deserve success because you are special and unique and God wouldn’t have it any other way. 


Get out of your comfort zone and make your mess your message starting today.

Every now and then you get an email that has a real message and this is one of them for me.  The lesson here is the fact that even the smallest among us can help turn our mess into a message:

Last week I took my children to a restaurant.  My six-year-old son asked if he could say grace.  As we bowed our heads, he said, “God is great.  God is good.  Thank you for the food and I would even thank you more if mom gets us ice cream for dessert.  And liberty and justice for all.  Amen!”

Along with the laughter from customers nearby, I heard a woman remark, “That’s what’s wrong with this country.  Kids today don’t even know how to pray.  Asking God for ice cream.  Why, I never!”

Hearing this, my son burst into ears and asked me, “Did I do it wrong?  Is God mad at me?”  As I held him and assured him that he had done a terrific job, an elderly man approached the table.

He winked at my son and said, “I happen to know that God thought that was a great prayer.” 

“Really?” my son asked.

“Cross my heart,” the man replied.  Then, in a theatrical whisper, he added (referring to the woman who started the whole thing) “Too bad she never asks God for ice cream.  A little ice cream is good for the soul sometimes.”

Naturally, I bought my kids ice cream at the end of the meal.  My son stared at his for a moment and then did something I will remember for the rest of my life.  He picked up his sundae, and without a word, walked over and placed it in front of the woman.  With a big smile he told her, “Here, this is for you. Ice cream is good for the soul sometimes and my soul is good already.”

Sometimes we all need a little ice cream.

One of the biggest mistakes some people make is trying to please everybody.  They want to be liked and respected so when called upon to do something, they don’t hesitate to jump right in with both feet whether or not they can actually handle the task.

Here’s the deal:  you can’t be all things to all people so instead of trying to please everybody–just do what you know you can do and forget about the rest.  The worst mistake you can make is to say “yes” and then fail to do what you promised or you don’t perform up to the standard of the person asking for help.

Focus on what you know you can do well so you don’t develop a mess of being a jack-of-all-trades-master-of-none.

Failure doesn’t mean I’m a failure

It does mean I have not yet succeeded


Failure doesn’t mean I haven’t accomplished anything

It does mean I have learned something


Failure doesn’t mean I’ve been a fool

It does mean I had faith enough to experiment


Failure doesn’t mean I’ve been disgraced

It does mean I have dared to try


Failure doesn’t mean I don’t have it

It does mean I have something to do in a different way


Failure doesn’t mean I am inferior

It does mean I am not perfect


Failure doesn’t mean I have wasted my life

It does mean I have an excuse to start over


Failure doesn’t mean that I should give up

It does mean that I should try harder


Failure doesn’t mean I will never make it

It does mean I need more practice


So make your mess your message and turn your stumbling blocks into stepping stones.

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