June 2009

A few weeks ago I received a note from someone on Facebook.  He apparently remembered me from high school but I did not remember him.  (We were in the same Speech Class).

The follow-up note he sent me moved me to tears.  I share this with you because it just goes to show you how you can change a life for the better and not even know it.  Certainly, I had no idea how the impact of my words back then would play out more than 30 years later.  But I am so thankful that I said something to inspire.

Here’s his note to me:

This is a selfish message more for me than for you…Of course you wouldn’t remember me. First my name was (name deleted) back then (i used my step dad’s name at that time), I weighed about 98 lbs then, my fro was unkempt, my attire was second hand, dirty and ill fitting, there were 10 of us in our household with 1 bath tub (that I hardly ever used), and I got a “C” in that (speech) class, all my other grades that year were “F’s” I was very proud of my “C”.  That was my best effort. 

After one speech that I muttered and stumbled through, you said “good job Mike”…You, The great McKinley speaking sensation, told me…little dirty me good job.  I don’t even think I said thank you or looked you in the eye, but I felt like a winner that day. 

I dropped out of school that next year and joined the U.S. Marines, where I stayed for the next 12 years.  I started a sales career, and discovered I could excel there. I soon started teaching and training sales people, and for the past 12 years I have prospered running my own consulting company with several junior consultants that I employ. I have traveled the world (48 countries) teaching the art of selling to groups that number from 25 to 2500. 

There have been many Bev’s in my life since that “good job Mike” more than 30 years ago, people that have taken the time to give a word of encouragment to the less able, and now I like to think I am a Bev myself . So this heart felt message is not just for you. It’s for all of those Bev’s that I never said thank you to. I enjoy a life I never dreamed of as a child.

Thank you Bev’s of the world . I send you love, joy, and light … Namaste

Now you see why I am still crying……..


I have always said God gives up wake-up calls throughout our lives when He’s trying desperately to get our attention about something.  The question is, how often do you answer the phone or do you just ignore the call?  

A wake-up call is what I believed happened last night when my 19-year-old daughter, Janie, was involved in a motor vehicle accident with a drunk driver.  She was on her way back from Food Lion (less than 1/2 mile away from the house) when this young woman slammed into the back of our vehicle.

According to this nice couple who witnessed the accident, they said Janie was driving the speed limit when out of nowhere this driver came up and slammed into the back of our vehicle. They theorize she was trying to cut in between the two vehicles but misjudged her distance.

After a long night in the hospital, we returned home.  Janie is sore and has been diagnosed with a lower lumbar strain and a thoracic strain. I have some shattered nerves because I can’t help thinking  how much more serious the accident could’ve based on the impact and damage of both vehicles but God is good and obviously has a purpose for Janie and this other young lady.

 Both of the vehicles look to be total losses.

This young woman, who just turned 21, was so drunk she blew a 3.0 on the breathalyzer. In the state of NC .08 is legally drunk so I can’t believe she blew a 3.0. I don’t know how she could drive in that condition.  Police administered the test three times because I don’t think they could believe it either!

I have to tell you I felt so bad for this young woman.  She was crying and kept apologizing. It was such a sad scene to witness but, of course, I was concerned for Janie first and foremost so I didn’t express the compassion for this girl who just hit our car.

The police also told us when they tried to call the girl’s mother to let her know her daughter had just been in an accident, the mother sounded drunk also and just hung up the phone.

She was taken to jail and charged with DUI. We checked today and she is still behind bars with a $1500 secured bond.  Janie, meanwhile, is resting.

Thank God my grandson, Jarod, wasn’t in the car–which he normally is–but he was at home in bed.

I have always been an advocate for MADD–Mothers against drunk drivers—but now that this is up close and personal, I have become an even STRONGER advocate. 

My question here is why aren’t young people getting the message that alcohol and driving don’t mix? 

And let’s hope and pray that this wake-up call is answered.

It is relaxing and refreshing to take a few moments now and then during the day to bring our thoughts, feelings and emotions under control.  We may not realize just how much power we have in stopping those negative thoughts from infesting into our spirit.  We have a center of peace within us to which we can always turn.  The place of peace, of stillness, of power can be entered into at any time.

Our willingness to let go of negative thoughts and feelings, our willingness to take a few moments to sit quietly and to breathe freely and easily of the breath of life can be a most rewarding practice.

The peace and quietness that is found in a moment of prayer stays with us and makes all that we do a joy.  When we are relaxed, rested and refreshed, we are at peace in mind and body.

I was inspired to write this blog today after reading a post by Star Jones.

How many times have you found yourself in a situation that caused you tremendous stress or despair?  We’ll all had our share of life’s ups and downs–but it’s how you handle yourself in the face of adversity that counts.

Here’s what I say:

CALM DOWN!   God has your life under control; He knows how to handle even the seemingly complex situation with ease.

SHUT UP!   Stop having pity parties and talking about your business all the time; don’t you know that the power of death and life is in the tongue!   Stop speaking negative things into existence in your life
and in others.

QUIT TRIPPIN!   When you look at your situations through your eyes, you often read more into the situation than what is there. It’s not as bad as you think particularly if God is in your life; Stop over
analyzing your life.